One of the greatest gifts you can leave behind is to be, as far as it is possible with you, at peace with all people.
“As far as possible” means we walk as far forward in the process of reconciliation as the will of the other person will allow. We can walk up onto the emotional porch of another person’s life and ring the doorbell, but they must open the door.
Getting up onto this relational porch requires that we do some very visible things to position ourselves in a place of vulnerability. This will require humility. In each season of spiritual growth, there will be some porch time. Healthy transitions will include this element of vulnerability and risk.
God wants us to be free, and he will hand that freedom to us as a medicine to dispense to others. Some people will crack the door open just enough to see you standing on their porch, and that will be enough to begin the process of reconciliation and restoration.
(An excerpt from the book, A Good Place. https://www.amazon.com/Good-Place-Walking-Transitions-Ministry/dp/0615947573/ref=sr_1_6?ie=UTF8&qid=1545056288&sr=8-6&keywords=garris+elkins)